It requires so much energy to hold yourself in place when you believe everything to be outside of yourself.
What does that mean? Find out in your own experience;
1. Keep the focus on yourself and not what others are doing or saying. No need to micro-manage your experience or others.
2. Gain familiarity with what is stable. Take Short moments of uncontrived natural rest and repeat many times throughout the day.
3. Everything else falls into place on its own equalling ease in all experience of life: saturated ease.