I remember there being a constant reference outside of myself, living up to expectations of myself and others, constantly wanting to be liked and doing whatever I could to arrange things in a way where my behavior was likable. This started very young, and then I also wanted my children to like me and I did whatever I could to make sure they did!
The great boon is that you don't need to correct anything! Get familiar with natures intelligence. Just as nature is fine with itself, relaxing in itself, your native identity is just this simple, it is what is right here and unmoving. You get acquainted with that through relaxing.